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So just thought I would share in the last two weeks I have had to adjust to a big change. We had to move my Mom in due to Covid attacking. She is slowly getting better but due to her poor health will not be able to be left alone.

To say it has been a struggle to get help and answers at this time would be an understatement. I was reminded last night and today by two very precious friends that they and God love me. One is trying to help me navigate unknown territory and one prayed over me first thing as I got my day started. I am a hot mess by the way hair not brushed eyes barely open lol.

Now I have a choice I can choose to give in to fatigue and exasperation on people dragging their feet to help me such as Home Health Care etc. or I can face the reality that Covid probably has a lot to do with it and offer grace to those who are probably already overworked. I will chose grace.

I know that answers are out there I just have not found them yet. So today I will focus on finding answers, attempt to shower my Mom and get my workouts in. I will focus on improving her health without losing my own or stopping my goal getting.

I will smile and carry on. I will love my family and not take my frustrations out on other. I will be pleasant and understanding to those I encounter and I will accept this day as it is not as I wish it to be.

I will stand on Jesus Christ my Lord. I will draw my strength from him. I will accept help when I need to.

I thank God for my family and friends who support me. I thank him for allowing my to have a job that works with me. I thank him for my Aunt Linda who is suffering from Covid. She has taken care of my Mother for many years. I never realized how much she really had to endure until now. I will cry over the loss of a beautiful soul. I will also rejoice for I know where he is. I will pray for his family as they adjust to the loss.

I will swing at the ball until I get a homerun. I will not quit or give in. I will carry on .

Swing away Miss D ! Swing Away

What is accountability and how important is it to you?

The definition is the quality or state of being accountable, especially: an obligation or willingness to accept responsibity or to account for one’s actions.

For me accountability is very important. I know you can not tell as I have not been faithful in keeping up with my blog or Facebook posts. It is however very helpful for me to be held accountable.

Who do we hold our selves accountable to? Do you hold your self accountable for anything? How do you hold yourself accountable?

There is no right or wrong answer here. I am just sharing my thoughts on the subject and hopefully helping you do some thinking on the subject as well.

I hold myself accountable to many different people, God, spouse, employer, myself and my accountability groups. I have an accountability group I check in every Sunday. We talk about our successes and struggles in our fitness journey. It has also become a more personal group and we encourage each other in most aspects of our lives as well.

I talk to God on a daily basis and yes he talks back if I take the time to listen. I am learning to truly hold myself accountable by his standards and not the worlds. I am very thankful he loves me even when I stumble around.

I very much enjoyed when I had a personal trainer that I had to check in with on a weekly basis. It was all online but she held me to the the fire. She used tough love at time. I appreciated that she made me own my actions. I could not blame any one but myself for the outcome.

I am learning to do this in all areas of my life. If you are struggling in any area of your life, then please find a group or friend to hold you accountable.

When possible hire a coach or counselor when needed. If not join a free group or make one.

I am currently holding myself accountable to myself for reaching my goals. It will be the actions that I choose to take every day that determines if I reach my goals.

My main 2 goals this year have been to get my health and fitness on track and pay off as much debt as possible and begin to invest for my future. Yes I am a bit late to the party but I believe I can accomplish many things in the years to come. I realize that looks like 4 goals but I count them as 2.

I do have other goals for the year these are just my main 2. I would like to get more followers for Coffee with Miss D so I will need to held accountable.

That is an open invitation to any reader to hold me to it.

Have a great day. Thank you for reading

Hello there friends. It has been a minute since I have written anything. Why I wonder? I would blame it on time, but we all have the same number of minutes in a day. If I am honest time might have a little to do with it. I have for some reason hesitated even after all my good intentions. I can not come up with a good answer. Self doubt it truly at the root of it.

I am choosing to start back today and I pray that I can continue on . If you remember God placed this on my heart several years ago. I do not want to choose to continue to ignore him. It is not him I do not trust. I do not want to use the word fear but perhaps that is the issue. I am not sure fear is even the right word, the things I write here are just my opinions. I only wish to uplift and inspire people to be the best version of themselves. I know however that in this world people are prone to take offense or maybe misunderstand my intentions. I have to let go others opinions of me. I pray to have an open mind and be mindful and inspired by others not to take offense myself. We are all entitled to our own opinions. Hopefully we can also learn something from each other.

2 Timothy 1:7 For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and love and of a sound mind.

I am still waking in the morning about 4:45 to get to the gym and get my workouts in. I have also been walking in the park. My eating could use some discipline but I am progressing. Striving for progress not perfection.

I have also been spending a lot of time with my grandchildren. I will always be grateful that I am able to keep up with them. They will only be little for a little while and I will do my best to lead them to Jesus. The world is changing at such a rapid rate. Proverbs 22:6 Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it. I have to pray daily on this one. I sometimes feel I failed miserably on this with my own. I raised them in church and tried to live a Godly life. I did not always offer them the best example I walked to close to the world on some issues. I realize the world is like it is today because so many of have done that with every generation. I will pray that I can be a Godly influence on my children and grandchildren. Actually on all that I come in contact with.

Today I am jumping back on the wagon I pray that something I say helps you in some way. So I will make sure I schedule time to write. I pray I inspire or help someone in some way.

I ask that you listen to the still small voice of God. If something is on your hear that just will not go away please make a move. That is usually God wanting you to follow his direction. I hope you do not procrastinate like yours truly here. It may not always seem like something God wants you to do or say, however sometimes he uses us to help others either have confirmation or be made aware of their own struggle. When we do help others it must be done in love. A friend of mine comes to mind. I can tell they have not really forgiven someone in their past. They say they have but they are still quick to point out the offense. I use to struggle with this myself. We have to forgive so we can be forgiven. My point is I felt compelled to say something to the friend in love. Being a true friend they agreed and it went well. Believe me I had to pray about it a lot before I said anything,

Obedience is always best. So I will get back to being obedient no matter what is is that has been holding me back. If you have hung with me this long thank you so much. Be blessed.

Well hello again. Forgiveness has been on my mind a lot so I thought I would share some of my experience with it.

The best meaning of forgiveness I can find is : a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness. It does not mean forgetting, nor does it mean condoning or excusing offenses.

I want to first of all list a few scriptures:

1: Matthew 6 14-15 For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, Your Father will not forgive your sins.

2: Luke 23:34 Jesus said Father, forgive them for they do not know what they are doing.

Colossians 3:13 Bear with each other and forgive whatever you may have against on another. Forgive as the Father forgave you.

Is forgiving someone easy? Not in my personal opinion. It is one of the hardest things I have ever done. Honestly I still at times find it hard to forgive. I must say forgiving myself is also very hard to do at times.

I bet your are thinking you must have had an easy life that you can forgive. The answer to that is no. My Father checked out when I was very young. My stepfather was quite mean and mentally abusive. The love of my life was murdered and taken from us. Friends, Pastors, children and on and on it can go.

So how did I do it? For me it finally came down to this: Did I truly believe that Jesus Christ died for my sins and was willing to forgive me? Yes only if I forgave others. I do not know the path that any of these people walked before they came into my life. I know the pain they caused me. I am sure most of them suffered in their lives as well.

In the case of both my real Dad and my stepfather I was able to forgive them and have a relationship with both. I am grateful that neither of them passed with me harboring resentments towards them.

In the case of the man who murdered my husband many years ago; actually feels like another lifetime I did forgive him. I also witnessed his execution. Some will say I did not forgive him, but I know in my heart I did. I believe he had to answer for his crimes. I did pray that he would find Christ before he left this world and entered eternity.

Now if you have read this far and you are not a believer please stay a few minutes longer with me.

Unforgiveness can make you sick and bitter. It also gives the person or thing power over you. How many of us have wasted precious time, even years harboring extreme hate toward someone you refuse to forgive? Believe me that does more harm than good. I held on to my resentments for far to long. For me only turning my life over to God help me overcome those things that kept me down. I tried justifying them and saying they deserved my unforgiveness and maybe some did but that did not help me live a full happy life. I still struggle daily and again if you are not a believer please try to forgive those that hinder you from living a full life.

In the current world will live in there are things that happen every day we can choose to forgive, not condone or accept the behavior or person just forgive.

I ask you today as we part please do some self reflection. Do you need to forgive someone or perhaps yourself. If there is anyone or thing that you always complain about even if it happened years ago then perhaps you have not truly forgiven them.

If you treat the people around you a certain way (micro-manage) because someone at another time did you wrong, perhaps you have not truly forgiven the person.

If you can not have a loving relationship perhaps you have not forgiven someone who truly hurt you. Maybe you were the one who did the hurting please forgive yourself.

I am not saying run out and take back anyone who has wronged you I am saying forgive them and let them go. Move on and live a better life.

The following made me pause and reflect. You are never in the wrong place. Sometimes you are in the right place looking at things in the wrong way.

I can not say that I agree with the first sentence because I know I have found myself in the wrong place with the wrong people. I am sure many of us have. That being said I do agree with the second sentence sometimes we need to look at things a little differently, perhaps we are exactly where we are suppose to be we just can not see it yet.

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The question of the day is where am I? I know right now I am exactly where I am suppose to be. I do not want to just sit here and be comfortable. I want to grow and learn and help other. For this day I am where I need to be. Is life perfect ? No it is not however I have a God who loves and provides for me. He has helped me to become a better person. That same God will do the same for us but we have to listen and obey and do.

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Do You find yourself at job that often leaves you more frustrated and not content? Should you leave or should you adjust your lenses to look at things a little differently? List the pros and cons of your job really evaluate it. Not just based on your feelings but on the facts.

Do You find your self unhappy with your weight or health? Then please evaluate how you got to this point. I heard someone today say that you do not need an app or to count calories. Eat better move. So not true some of us do need those things to move forward in our health and fitness journey. Good health and fitness are not a one size fits all. It may take several attempts to find your right combination of nutrition and exercise.

How are your relationships? Do you need to work on having better relationships with friends and loved ones? I do. I am currently trying to remember to really listen. I also want to work on delivery of what I have to say. There are so many times feelings are hurt because people misunderstand what is being said .

In all of these matters take a good look at yourself. See where you are. Ask yourself is this where I want to be? If it is not please see where you want to be. No one else can do this for you. You have to really see it. Then take action to get you where you want to be.

I want you to pray earnestly to the Lord that he will help you honestly answer the questions I have posed to you today. Then listen to him for the answers. Here is the hardest part own it and take action from there.

I will be praying that all who read this will trust the Lord to help them become all that they can be.

Good Morning, life has kept me busy so I have not had time to give my thoughts on these chapters.

Grab your coffee and lets see where I am today.

Chapter 6 is Job’s second speech, he is still complaining and making excuses to justify it, however he still does not blame God. He also chastises his friend for accusing him of sinning even though there is no proof he has sinned. My main takeaway that keeps coming back to me is we should all be careful when we speak with a friend. Are we ourselves guilty of thinking perhaps they brought their problems on themselves? There may be times when that is in fact the case, however we should not be so quick to judge them.

Chapter 7 finds Job in total despair. He even cried out to God that he wished for death. He questioned God’s why. I think we all at times guilty of complaining and questioning God. We wonder why God does not ease our afflictions. The Bible tells us in Romans 5:3-4 Not only so, we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance, perseverance character and character hope.

Also 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 tells us That God is the father of compassion and he will comfort us in our troubles. He does this so that we may comfort others who may suffer troubles.

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In Job 8-9 His friend Bildad reminds Job that God is a just God and he will not reject a person of integrity or prosper evil people. He reminds Job that God is able to restore his joy. Job knows this in his heart but still questions why God is doing this to him?

My, my how familiar this is to me. So many times in my journey I questioned God. I have learned to trust him. I have learned the hard way.

I am a stubborn soul but I can look back now on my life and know that in my case many of the troubles I suffered were because of my own life decisions and not trusting God or following him whole heartedly during those times.

Job 10 finds him still complaining and asking for a little comfort. I think God expects that from us as we are human and sometimes can not see the forest for the trees. I am guilty even now of wondering why its seems the wicked prosper. God reminds me to look a little further as the end is already written and though they may prosper now they will answer for their sins in the end.

Job 11 finds his friend Zophar still wondering what sin he is guilty of. He tells Job to first confess his sin. He then tells Job to flee from the sin. What a friend. Actually he is a bit harsh but his words ring true for today. I pray God examines my heart and uncovers any sin that I am guilty of so that I may stop.